When I decided to write on being intentional, I thought about the topics I would use each day and quickly realized there was one central theme: If I want to make changes, I really have to be deliberate about it. For longer than I want to admit, I haven't been giving the relationships in my life the attention and care they deserve. I haven't been making the connections I so desire to make.
I asked myself the hard questions. Questions with answers that made me uncomfortable.
Do my loved ones know they are important to me?
Do I take the time to visit, call, send a note?
Do I use social media constructively?
I've used the excuse that life is just so busy and that starting tomorrow or Monday or the first of next month, I will do better. But when that day comes, I'm busy, so I put it off again.
That stops today.
Being intentional about relationships requires me to stop what I am doing and think about others. It can be quite sobering to really reflect on how well you know the people in your life. I can come up with a hundred reasons why I haven't focused on my relationships, but they aren't really reasons. They're excuses.
I had to take a hard look at myself and acknowledge that I was being selfish. There's just no other way to put it.
Being intentional about making connections and bettering relationships all boils down to letting someone else know they are loved and cared for, and taking the focus off myself.
We all need someone to be intentional toward us and the first step is being intentional toward others. Whether it's connecting in real life or through social media, relationships are deepened and enriched as two people support and lift one another up.
TODAY I am making a genuine effort to cultivate connections and nurture relationships, both online and in real life.
TODAY I will not only tell people that I love them, I will show them.
TODAY I will reach out and find ways to make the lives of those in my life better.
This post is part of the 31 Days of Intention series. You can see other posts in this series here.